Have you ever found yourself battling with a voice inside of your head who knows just the right thing to say to make you feel worse about yourself? Or maybe you dared to allow yourself to experience the briefest moment of pride at a job well done; only to have that same voice sarcastically tell you anyone could have done that. You may even experience an underlying feeling of self-doubt and insecurity which results in you not taking any risks at all. Instead you believe that things just don’t seem to work out for you so why even try.
If you have had any of these experiences, then you have had the pleasure, well rather displeasure, of meeting your inner critic. I affectionately call her “Ms. Critic”.
Ms. Critic is very skilled at bringing out our doubts, insecurity, and overall bad feelings about ourselves. What’s worse is that she’s infectious. Have you ever noticed that when you’re having a bad day you’re more critical of everything and everyone around you? Yup, she’s a master manipulator of moods and can rob you of your ability to be fully present in your life.Have you ever noticed that when you’re having a bad day you’re more critical of everything and everyone around you? Click To Tweet
To be fair, she’s had several years of practice. Ms. Critic is very good at making a convincing argument. Part of what makes her so successful is that she is able to stick a grain of truth inside of her criticism. We recognize this small truth, so are tricked into believing that everything she’s saying must be true! We want to grow and improve so believe that the only way to do so is by listening to our inner critic.We want to grow and improve so believe that the only way to do so is by listening to our inner critic. Click To Tweet
The good news is that her way is only one of several ways that we can grow. While growth and change can definitely be challenging, we do not have to be robbed of our self-esteem in order to make it happen.
As a matter-of-fact, I think that Ms. Critic is actually trying to be helpful. Have you noticed that she often shows-up when you’re about to step outside of your comfort zone, try something new, or when you’re beginning to believe in yourself just a little? She believes that what is familiar, even if it makes us feel bad or is otherwise unhealthy, is safer than what we don’t know.
Today I’d like you to take some time to get to know your Ms. (or Mr.) Critic. Increasing your awareness about how she’s shows-up in your life will help you start to figure out how to take away some of her power.
I’ll be back in a couple of weeks to share some strategies to help you reduce the negative impact that Ms. Critic has in your life.
I want to leave you with a bit of encouragement before I go.
Despite what your inner critic says, please know that you are worthy.
Thanks so much for stopping by today.
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