self-care and fear

Self-Care in a Time of Fear: How to Become Part of the Solution When Fear is Overwhelming You

I don’t tend to blog about controversial topics because of the type of work I do.  With that said, I can’t not speak about what’s been happening in my country and the world this week.  My desire with this article is to start an honest dialogue.  To see how we can work together to become part of the solution and help each other heal.

I hate watching the news.  I find it depressing and upsetting most of the time and am sensitive to the pain of others.  I feel my energy is better spent helping my clients heal their hearts and create lives of calm, clarity, and ease.  This week however, I chose to stay connected and experience the pain my country is facing.

As I scrolled through my Facebook feed I was angered, saddened, and horrified by the violence that has faced this country and the world.  I read stories and watched videos about #altonsterling and #philadrocastile being gunned down just days apart.  Then there was the shooting in Dallas where 5 police officers were killed by snipers.  In addition, earlier this week there was an ISIS truck bombing in Baghdad where as of yesterday, almost 300 innocents have lost their lives.

So what is the message here?  What is at the heart of all of this violence?  And more importantly, what can we do to support ourselves and each other through this?

While there are several important and critical messages here including, #blacklivesmatter #alllivesmatter #guncontrol & #terroismhasnoreligion, I believe there is one that connects them all.

At the heart of all of these terrible and violent acts is the emotion of fear.  This fear is erupting into anger and hatred which when acted upon, is leading to these horrendous acts of violence.

I believe that the solution is for us to find healthy ways to talk about instead of acting out of our fear.  

We need to TALK about instead of ACT OUT of our fear. Click To Tweet

We need to find the courage to be really honest with ourselves about the things that frighten-us.  We need to talk about the things that are “politically incorrect” to say out loud, but show-up in our behavior and attitudes towards others.

  • The attitudes and perceptions we have about people who do not look like us.
  • The beliefs we have about people who live in a different community or neighborhood than us.
  • The thoughts we have about people who speak a different language or dialect than ours.
  • The feelings we have about people who have different belief systems, faiths, or religions than ours.
What really scares you? Let’s talk about it. Click To Tweet

What really scares you?  I want to challenge you this week to remove your filter and look at yourself honestly and truthfully.  What do you fear and how are these fears impacting the choices you’re making?  Let’s talk about it so that we work through our fears together.

How are your fears impacting your choices? Click To Tweet

I want to invite you to join the dialogue with me in the comments section below.  There is no judgement here.  I want to help us all become part of the solution for what is broken.

Thanks so much for stopping by today and joining the conversation.

With Gratitude,


P.S.  Over the next few weeks I’m going to focus my blog articles on the topic of fear and self-care.  I want to invite you to add this blog to your feed reader or follow-me on Bloglovin so that you can become part of the solution.

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