For as long as I can remember, I have had a busy mind. Filled with ideas and adventures, I often struggled to fit into conventional ideas of what “normal” looked like. I was a smart and curious child, but had difficulty focusing on tasks that didn’t interest me. I was gifted in the arts and music, but had to give them-up early. My studies, the ones other people deemed most important, were suffering. I could understand the work just fine, but I couldn’t seem to get it done as fast as my peers. I remember my parents took me for testing to see what was “wrong” and how they could help me succeed. Nothing was revealed in the tests, but I continued to struggle. I was in a school environment, that did not provide the needed flexible learning platform for a kid like me.
My parents made the decision to move me to a different school that offered the needed flexibility when I was in 7th grade. This year was a defining moment in my life. I was able to work at a pace and in a way that aligned with my needs. I was successful in my studies and able to pursue hobbies of interest. The downside was that I suffered socially. I was a misfit. I didn’t fit in with the “cool kids” or the “geeks”. The teachers didn’t even really understand me. I over-ate and gained weight, and probably suffered from mild depression. Despite this, I thrived. There was something inside that kept nudging me on. My parents, particularly my mother, provided tremendous support and validated my feelings and value on a regular basis.
The following year, I returned to my old school and continued to thrive and caught-up with the rest of my peers.
Fast forward to the present, where I am a multi-passionate entrepreneur pursuing my dreams of being an artist and supporting other heart-centered women in living more authentic and creative lives.
More of My Story
To learn more about how I built my counseling practice, please read my private practice development blog series.
What I’ve Learned
All of my parts are me
I don’t have to be bound by the convention of choosing one career path to follow for the rest of my life. I can flow in and out of them and explore different ideas; as long as I have the right structure to guide my exploration.
Other people do not define me
I get to choose who I am. I have had people throughout my life try to place limitations on my capacity; well-meaning loved ones, teachers, and friends. When I thought their way was right, I even considered placing those limitations on myself.
I get to choose
I get to decide who I am and how I want to express that in the world. I’ve learned how to trust myself, learned that my internal guidance system aka “my gut” and my spiritual grounding will lead me on my right path.
My past does not define my future
I have experienced several challenges in my life. I can choose to look at them at limitations or opportunities. I prefer seeing opportunities because this opens-up the world to me. The perspective I choose directly impacts how I move forward in my life.
I can practice my way into change
I no longer believe the idea that you have to be “born with” a certain skill, talent, or personality in order to do something different. I am not a “naturally” organized person, but have learned how to become more organized. I was not born into a family of artists and never went to art school. I started creating art in my 30’s and am now a working artist who is continuing to learn and grow everyday. I now practice my way into the changes I desire for my life.
Life is a journey
You have probably heard the saying, “it’s not about the destination but the journey.” I live this idea everyday. I walk with my clients on their journeys toward well-being and the creation of their desired lives. I journey in my own life through the ups and downs and transitions (aren’t we always in transition, lol). Knowing this, I’m able to make sure I’m not missing anything along the way. This perspective makes life much more rich and fulfilling.
My Desire for You
I wanted to share my story with you to help you understand why I am so passionate about helping you develop healthy self-connection. Doing this will open-up your life to a level of richness and fulfillment you may not have believed possible. In fact, doing this helps you create a solid foundation for every other decision you make in your life.